Unexpected shift – I’m invisible!!!
When I’ve met Vlasta I noticed that women’s dresses on him cause a stir everywhere. I mean EVERYWHERE. People were staring at us, taking photos, commenting. And than I suddenly realized:
I’m invisible!!! 😀 It was a whole new feeling.
As a girls we’re used to attention. From an early age, the surroundings evaluate us (nice dresses, shoes, hair). But not for boys. They are measured by their actions. He broke it, arranged it, repaired it, invented it. And suddenly it’s different. There is a lot of attention around us, but not on me, on Vlasta! I’ve became used to it. But it’s a completely new experience.
One story for all. It’s a February night and we’re leaving the dance ball. We’ve decided to walk because we don’t live too far. We both have dresses. It’s three o’clock in the morning, at the National Theater we pass a couple of young and handsome people (boy and girl). The boy suddenly stops and says:
– “Excuse me, weren’t you at the National Theater at the Ballet Bridges in November?“
We’re both a little surprised, but we answered unanimously yes. The boy smiled, looked at Vlasta and said:
– “Blue cocktail dress and brown pumps! Am I right?“
He was. But no one remembered what I was wearing. We all started laughing and a couple disappeared into the darkness.
Once, in the morning, we went to work together. Vlasta was exceptionally wearing pants. He looked at me and conspiratorially said:
– “Now, if they’re staring at us, they’re staring at you“. 😀
And he was right. I had my attention again. Even though it was so little compared to him wearing dress.
It is because the site of an obvious man, NOT attempting to be a woman, wearing a dress is very very unusual. When it comes to women getting all the attention though…well, isn’t that kinda unfair? Why should only one sex be able to enjoy OR be subjected to (depends on the point of view) such attention? Frankly I think attention should be evenly divided. When My lovelies and I go out she is just as bedecked as myself, but us being Goths lends to that to be fair.
Yes, that’s true. But we think, that basically men trying to look like a women are the main reason that the public doesn’t accept man freely wearing what they want and what they like. As I said before, men are not taught and used to have sense for combinations available in women wardrobe. They also have different physiognomy. So you have to adapt to that. There are some simple rules every woman knows, but almost none man does. And than they end up wearing something which mainstream society doesn’t accept. I have seen on Youtube video with former CIA operative explaining how spies use disguises. There is one thing, which confirms my point. She says, that with women you have variety of possibilities including to change them to men. But it’s almost impossible to change man to woman.
I think great to see a guy wear dresses out and about and should be more doing anywhere and anyplace live life to fullest and shouldn’t matter what u wear out into public
Maybe I’m wrong – but to me it looks like Vlasta is wearing a bra under the dress, in the picture. Is he, or is it just my eyesight playin tricks on me? <3
No, I don’t wear bras. 🙂
I get to applaud both, for this post. I have thought before about this issue. Since they are too young, girls are stimulated to be pretty, “gorgeous”, mainly by the appearance. In the opposition from an early age, the mothers dress their sons in pale and discrete cloths. We do men, get freak to wear bright or flower cloths, even the one that conforms with “SOCIAL CONFORMITY CODE”. So let now, men express their self with much more fun
Judging and discussing a person by their clothes is absolutely wrong ! It doesn’t matter if he’s wearing a dress or trousers! Only actions matter , only then we are talking about a person with a capital letter or nothing at all!